June 3rd. Bellagio in Las Vegas. Wedding was about 90% planned. It was one of the least stressful things I’d ever done, it was almost too good to be true. Too easy.
And then came the bombshell.
We’re outside a few weeks ago, enjoying the beautiful weather while my husband is getting ready to grill up some delicious dinner. I’m lounging by the pool enjoying a lovely glass of wine, life is good.
“Honey” he says, “I need to talk to you about something.” Ok, no big deal I thought. He probably wants to start planning a trip for spring break or something. “I’ve been thinking” he says, “I really don’t want to get married in Vegas.”
“Ok… um, what exactly does that mean….” I say, trying not to completely lose my shit or throw up. “Well, I just don’t feel like we should start our marred life in sin city. It just feels wrong. I think we should get married somewhere here in Phoenix.”
Ok, so he still wants to get married. That’s good. Think positive. Don’t freak out. Don’t go all bridezilla on him even though he is completely changing the wedding that’s 4 months away. He continued on for several more minutes with his reasoning on why this would be a good idea and why it all makes sense, etc. After he was finished he looked at me and sad “So what do you think about all that?”
I looked at him, honestly I couldn’t find the words to say. I burst into tears and pretty much spent the rest of the evening on the phone calling everyone in a complete panic. I was in such shock. I was so overwhelmed. I went from having a wedding almost completely planned to having nothing. No wait, I had a dress. But at that point, no wedding to even wear it to.
So I did what every woman would do, I spent the rest of the weekend at Target, Starbucks, and some of my other favorite shopping spots. I also drank a lot of wine. Finally Sunday night, the desire to want to shove him off a cliff went away, and we sat down to talk about things. He really explained in depth where he was coming from, and I got it. He didn’t want a Vegas wedding (even though it was the Bellagio). He wanted it to be more meaningful, more special. How could I not love that? Sure, it was going to be a little stressful and frustrating at first, but it would all be worth it. It was really going to mean that much more.
So, that’s what I’ve been up to the past few weeks, re-planning our wedding. We already have our new venue set and a date set, and thankfully most of my original ideas for decor, floral, etc. can be carried over. So really, it’s turning out not to be as stressful as I thought it might be. We’ve also decided to expand the bridal party so I’m so excited to be able to have both of my sisters and two of my very close friends as bridesmaids! Honestly, everything really does seem to be working out for the best and I think it’s going to be even better than the original plans.